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These are the thoughts of someone from the audience and I thought they were worth a bigger audience. continuation of Choose your story
There is no way a kid will sit down with a stranger to discuss what challenges they are going through. The modern day parent is a total stranger to their children. Once the maternity leave is over, the parent and the child are separated forever. She goes back to work.The child is entrusted with a house help who can’t even  be trusted with the house because you lock your bedroom to protect your valuables but leave the baby with the house help!
you come home in the evening very tired, no time to spend with the kid. At one and a half years, the kid is taken to baby care institutions. The kid is dropped there in the morning and picked in the evening when the parents are back. “Unapitia ukimchukua mkifika kwa nyumba amelala” a Swahili phrase meaning the child is picked up on your way from work and he/she is asleep by the time you get home. Over the weekend, you spend most of your time at the salon or busy at an association (commonly know as chama in Swahili). The cycle continues until the kid is in primary school when they are whisked off to boarding schools. Over the holiday breaks you organize for tuition for the kids until the last week. You only take them out for fun on the final weekend before they go back to school. On that day we have no peace on social media. You splash photos all over with stupid tags #madfun …
The cycle continues until the young one goes to High school. Then you expect the teachers to perform a miracle. By now, you are at the top of the corporate ladder. You worked so hard to get there. But your son or daughter is a thug. You will spend all the money you accumulated and the rest of your time in rehabilitation centers for those kids. Believe what you want to but the family structure was not meant to be a democracy where you share everything 50:50.
It is the responsibility of the father to provide for the family.
It is the responsibility of the mother to bring up the kids and keep the family together.
That’s not going to change just because everyone is educated. Let everyone do their job or we shall spend a lifetime solving problems we created.
NB: If your job is separating you and your children then it’s not worth it.
and i think it pretty much sums everything up according to her. So that’s her story what’s yours?
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